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Relationships are hard. Here are some ideas about how to keep yours healthy!

Came across this good! Last year, one of my goals was to speak to each of my kids at the door before every class—small thing, big difference!

Well, my 8th graders are now high schoolers. It has been a beautiful two years having them.

If you are offering your gift at the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. Matthew 5:23-24

Navigating relationships, as a trauma survivor - - - Relationships don’t have to be a spike of vulnerability right out of the gate and then an instant pulling back...

All of the best football players don’t overthink when throwing a pass, when making a cut, when catching the ball. They just go with the flow and do it. Don’t overthink! Enjoy!

NO to Loneliness, 😽YES to ! Looking for real ? ... Friends who will always be there to listen and understand your sentiments and vice versa?

Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. . It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift. . ~Mary Oliver .

“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” ― Maya Angelou

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shit that ruins astrology for me: synastry
Starting Over - Chapter 1 - Lavenderbreeze - Chicago Fire [Archive of Our Own]
An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works
By Organization for Transformative Works

Coming to terms with the divorce from Donna, Wallace is left feeling unsure about his place in life, juggling his home-life with work. Dealing with the constant struggles of caring for his infant son and reconnecting with his old flame, Wallace is given an option to be his true self. But is he willing to take the dangerous path to get there?

If you want to know how Boden got to this point, please read this first.

Day by day, things have been going from bad to worse for Wallace Boden.
Horrific fires, pulse pounding river rescues, and losing his son.
Who will save him?

People on sm are so gullible, they show you all the highlights of their life and never a down moment or a moment where they’re not getting along. It’s just the times when they’re feeling each other, however, they’re not going to show you when they’re actually having it out or pissed at each other. If you’re going to put your business out there for the masses, put it all out there. When something happens everybody’s like, but they were so happy!! No! They only showed you the good parts of the picture not, the whole picture.  #sm relationships

Is my boyfriend asexual??

Maybe my boyfriend is asexual. Or somewhere along those lines. I started considering that last night and have been reading other people’s pages here and on google.

I don’t know what I think about it. One thing is that if he IS asexual, i don’t think he’s aware of it on the concrete level of even using the term.

He was slow to start out with. We hung out over a month before I even knew he was into me. Once we started touching it flowed to the point where sex was about to happen and then I had to disclose about herpes. But we still did other things. He kisses the best I’ve ever kissed. He would get aroused, I’ve given him oral many times. He seems to enjoy it when it happens. Slowly about a month after that we had sex 3 separate times. He orgasmed all three times.

But it’s been six months going on seven with no sex. Even making out has not happened very much or oral sex.

I’m back and forth always wondering what is wrong why is he not attracted to me? Did I do something wrong? Is he in love with someone else? Is he having sex with somebody else? Does he just not want to have sex because he’s scared of herpes? I don’t know.

And I don’t know if he knows either. When I try and talk about it or I’ve sent him things there is little dialogue. Like he himself doesn’t know what to say or is nervous.

When we’re together doing things I have fun. I like who he is and his thoughts about life and the world. He’s got a kind soul. I feel like he wants to be loved and I am the same. He deserves love and I want to give it to him.

But not if he’s not into me. If he is asexual that is frustrating for me. Especially if he can’t verbalize what that means for him.

My biggest desire is to know he’s into me. And I go back and forth debating this. For someone who is your average heterosexual woman your whole life has been filled with guys being attracted to you. Openly, some aggressively. And of course you don’t want aggressive but the majority of us tie sexuality and love as one in the same.

It’s complicated because I am falling in love with him and it seems ridiculous when you have a man who is so solid in so many areas but sex. And how many relationships have I stayed in that were shit but the sex was hypnotizing.

It’s become an obsession I guess to dissect his mind and motivations. Then again, I’m like that with everyone I ever have feelings for.

Occasionally my wife and I hit a bit of a language barrier, so we resort to sketching. The sketches greatly help our understanding and can easily help us spot where things have got a bit confused.

Problem is: a week later we usually have no idea what the sketches were about.

This one might have been about a possible house move.

You’re far too much woman to accept far less a man than you’re worth. Weeks of no communication then a random text arrives filled with concern and care from the same person who only reached out to you because they’re done with whatever distracted them from you in the first place. It’s all a game. Don’t be fooled.

Qasim Rafique

“I began to wonder if I could be more inventive than merely yearning for love … I have come to no conclusion. It is beautiful and noble when it exists, but embarrassing when dreamed of; and while it is, I think, a slice of the pie that completes our experience, it is stupid to view it as constituting the filling as so many do.”

’,’ - Megan’s Poetry #550

Low Man on the Totem Pole

Finna drop some Polyam knowledge on y'all. There is a phenomenon I have observed that I like to call “Low Man on the Totem Pole”. It’s the concept of last one hired, first one fired. How this plays out is like this:

Say you are dating someone with two partners in addition to you and they had those partners when you met them. You have no issue with those partners and feel little jealousy when your partner interacts with them. Then your partner starts dating someone new and you find yourself losing your shit about it. What’s wrong? You fully accept their relationships with their other partners. Why can’t you seem to accept this budding new relationship?

I believe it’s because you are the last partner they acquired so that means that one, you have been around for the least amount of time and there’s a security that comes with length of time, and two, you partner has demonstrated that they can have these other connections and you already so their existing relationships don’t feel like a threat to you because they had them when your formed YOUR relationship with your partner. There is no precedent, however, that this new person won’t have an adverse affect on your relationship with your partner; that your partner can hold the older relationships and yours and this new one at the same time. And since you are the “last one hired” you become scared that you’ll be the “first one fired” if it becomes too much to handle for your partner.

How do you deal with this? Believe your partner values their connection with you regardless of the new shiny relationship. They are still choosing you in addition to this person. What if they don’t and the new person does “push me out”? That does happen, not gonna lie….but don’t you want someone that WANTS you. Like for real. Someone that no one could make them “push you out”. If that happens, the new person did you a favor. Will it hurt? Yes. Will you be better off because it will free up the space for you to have someone that is worthy of you? Also yes.

And if I can take it a step further, chances are that your partner is just as scared that this new person will make YOU want to leave THEM because you can’t handle their new love but folks don’t be ready for that level of compassion.

Meet me at midnight

…in the forest of my dreams. We’ll make a fire and count the stars that shimmer above the trees ❣️

I reconnected with an old friend a while ago, and it’s been a whirlwind of emotion since day 1. We’re both in committed relationships and neither of us wants to end our primary relationships but neither of us is getting exactly what we need. So we started our own personal journey… it’s been fun and exciting, there’s been so much love. It would’ve been easier had things started as a purely physical affair, but because emotions are wrapped up, it’s tricky. His partner found out and now it’s all up in the air. We aren’t really talking now because of it, and I do understand, but it doesn’t suck any less. I’m trying not to be selfish since both relationships are at stake here, but we’ve been friends longer than either of us have been with our current partners and now that we’ve got a real shot I don’t want it to disappear.