Social media was nothing new to Avery. Because she loved it so much, every morning she would wake up and check it. When she opened her phone, she began to decide where she wanted her attention to go first. She always enjoyed looking on Instagram, so she decided to open it up. As she was scrolling down her timeline, she saw that a person she followed had reached 50,000 views for a music video they created.
Another person that she followed just got promoted to senior Vice President of the company he was working for. These two things were enough to make her close out of the app, so she could begin to reflect on her goals and her life. Before she embarked on this voyage of reflection, she thought it would be great to have a cup of her favorite juice to get her mental juices flowing. She walked to her cupboard and grabbed a cup that had the word patience on it. She poured the juice into her cup, sat on her couch, and began to reflect.
As she was thinking about what progress she has made thus far, she noticed that her progress was not as great as she thought. She began to compare herself to people on social media. She said to herself “the people I follow are doing great, why am I not at that level yet?” This began to work her up a little bit, so she took a few sips of her favorite juice. After she put down her cup, the word patience was sitting right in front of her eyes. Not paying any attention to it, she grabbed her phone, opened Instagram again, and began to scroll down her timeline.
As Avery was scrolling down her timeline again, she saw more people posting pictures and videos of their accomplishments. She continued to scroll some more and she noticed that she was getting a little hot from the anger that was surfacing. To cool herself down, she grabbed her cup, took a gulp of her juice, and sat the cup back down. She put the phone down and stared into space for 20 minutes.
After sitting on the couch for twenty minutes, she picked her phone back up and closed out of Instagram. She thought about getting on Twitter, but then she decided to get on Facebook. As she was looking at her friends posts, she saw more people talking about the great things that were happening within their lives. Last week a guy posted about waiting for his big break to come. This week she saw that he posted a picture of his big break.
Avery became angrier and began to feel confused and unhappy. She grabbed her cup of favorite juice, gulped the rest down, and threw the cup in the sink. She sat back on the couch and started to talk to herself. “Why is it that I bust my butt everyday, just to only get spurts of progress? I should be in the spotlight just like them. I should be in that same position. This sucks!”
This example is a representation of what happens when we begin to compare ourselves to the people we see on social media. We scroll down our timelines, get angry at ourselves. We scroll some more and feel like we aren’t doing enough. The more we see others doing well, the more we lose patience in the journey that we are on. That one word that we seem to forget about is PATIENCE.
Just like Avery, you might be comparing yourself to the people you follow on social media. If you’re doing this, you are emptying your cup of patience a lot faster than you should. “Don’t let social media influence you to guzzle down your cup of patience.” You don’t know how long it took those people you follow to get to where they are now. You don’t know what sacrifices they had to make or how long they had to wait to be able to post those accomplishments you saw.
Embrace the opportunity to be in the position that you are in. Many people are in a stage where they are just beginning to figure out what they want to do with their lives. You may have that part figured out already. Many people may want to see progression in the vision that they envision. You may have that part figured out as well. You’re now at the point where you just have to be patient and put trust into your process. It takes time to reach the level you want to reach. You won’t be able to reach that point until you practice and indulge in patience.