Opinion on calling sex a Need
So off the bat, yes, I know that it’s not a physical need and that you won’t die without it. But for some it is a relationship need! You can absolutely say no and it needs to be respected but if it’s not a relationship need for you and it is for your partner you’re not compatible! Let them go!
It’s not okay to coerce anyone into having sex but don’t make it seem like someone needing sex in a relationship isn’t as valid as someone who doesn’t.
You won’t die if you don’t spend time with your partner but it sure is a need to keep the relationship going. It’s the same for sex for some people.