This time of year always makes people review choices. It’s the time of year when you evaluate how you feel, and who makes you feel it. Some of these decisions can be based on external factors; some are essential so that you can find peace internally.
When a real friend comes along, I pause, never sure that it’s real. I have welcomed several friends over the years I put in this category. Each has come into my world, softly, but made a significant impact. On how I see myself and showed me what it is I could be.
I have opened myself up to these people, showed the real me, the person people get a surprise with. I have bared my soul in tears and anger and received no judgement, but support on a scale that makes you think you can move mountains.
I always worry that I am not good enough. I get concerned that I have not paid enough attention to there issues when so much energy is spent with helping me. I want them all to know, I do try, I may not always remember on time, but I do remember in the end. There have been days when I have written down questions, taken notes so that I can follow up on important events in their lives. Being a failure as there friend is a real fear.
But I worry for nothing. Because I know that although time and space separate us, I can still call upon you. I know that because of the type of person you are if I called, you would come — all of you. The same goes for me to you.
People talk about a woman’s woman. These women are known as members of your tribe. These women, show support, are caring, mindful of you, but brutally honest. You can trust a woman’s woman; she won’t take your man; she will also help protect your brood.
My tribe spans the globe. But its there. At this time where change is again coming into my sphere of orbit, I ponder. I worry. But I should not. Real friends never leave; they move a little further out.
My life moves on with thanks to all those in my tribe. And like all fledgeling birds, the time has come again to spread my wings. To walk tall, to face the world on my terms. For each bend in the road, a lesson shall be discovered.
People hide behind others for many reasons. They feel left out and lonely. Guilt, jealousy and envy are all feelings people show towards each other. My friends help me cope with all that life throws at me. My tribe helps me deal when these emotions are thrown at me, and when I am feeling them. Support in the form of a real friend is one of the most underrated coping techniques.
So I just wanted to say thanks. Thanks for listening. Thanks for being there. Thanks for bringing wine. People don’t always know how much a small gesture means to another. I hope that all my friends are reading this smile. They know that in some way, you have all been there for me, in just coping with life in general. I value each of you. Come the new year times will change again. Dynamics will adjust. But my real friends will still be there.